tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025051323579333987.post1399607141667442340..comments2023-08-22T23:21:12.404-05:00Comments on Life With Nine Kids: Kids: Punishment, Shame, and SpankingMom of a bunch of great kids...http://www.blogger.com/profile/15733999427342792368noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025051323579333987.post-31902573859502599272014-03-19T11:04:33.554-05:002014-03-19T11:04:33.554-05:00This is great@ Sharing. I especially love this
&q...This is great@ Sharing. I especially love this<br /><br />"The ONE thing I must remind myself so very often not to do is to NOT shame them, talk harshly, or judge them --even in small ways. I try to let the kids be the people they are instead of attempting to make my life easier and rush them into the people they will be one day."<br /><br />such a simple adjustment can mean the world of difference to our kids!<br />:)LoriLori Petro, TEACH through Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16336335733590834602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025051323579333987.post-78655673059304701002014-01-03T09:42:40.094-06:002014-01-03T09:42:40.094-06:00I thought this post was really great. Thanks for i...I thought this post was really great. Thanks for including these links. I also really enjoyed your post about childbirth with all the great links. My husband and I hope to have a baby in the next year and I find learning about birth and parenting so fascinating. Thanks again for sharing your story, info, and experiences. It is so nice to hear from folks who are really doing the work to be the best parents they can be.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16718284502098070029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025051323579333987.post-10810867669233198122014-01-02T14:12:32.367-06:002014-01-02T14:12:32.367-06:00You are SUCH an amazing mom, not least because you...You are SUCH an amazing mom, not least because you keep at it, improving, reevaluating, etc.<br /><br />Not to take anything away from Ricky and his patience (it's amazing, and he's amazing!) but don't discount the fact that he works out of the house and gets a break from the constancy of the kids and how they try one's patience! That also lends a bit of distance, and some perspective! You don't get nearly as much of that, so please realize that your patience is pretty monumental, too! It's a real blessing that Ricky is able to share that perspective and his observations with you, and that you can hear them. That's part of what makes BOTH of you amazing, and such a great team!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12482139574272523919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9025051323579333987.post-33024226330029842742014-01-02T09:00:57.676-06:002014-01-02T09:00:57.676-06:00Great blog post! As a foster parent in Kansas, we ...Great blog post! As a foster parent in Kansas, we are required to do continuing education each year to maintain our license. Last year our agency was really pushing a particular program ( trauma systems therapy) that they really wanted all of the foster families to do. It was amazing. It basically presented the difference between discipline and punishment. As parents we use discipline to help children learn how to behave age appropriate in our home and in society, and it works. As parents we use punishment to try to maintain control. Discipline and punishment are very deifferent things. The program also went thru identifying signs or triggers that set off "unprovoked" or unexpected actions in kids. Obviously geared for "troubled" kids with serious trauma in their past, it was very interesting to read. I was able to identify "triggers" for a couple of age appropriate melt down my well behaved pre-teen boys had over the prior few months. Melt downs that had me thinking "where did that come from?" The more we learn about how our brains and bodies work, the better parents and people we can become. You are an amazing mother.Reneanoreply@blogger.com